By Haziel Williams
Gottman’s “Dreams- Within- Conflict” is a method we utilize to help couples to understand the driving
motivations within gridlock and perpetual arguments. Each partner has the opportunity to reflect on
their family of origin to gain a deeper understanding of their belief system around the conflict. When
each partner has evaluated their position in the conflict, from several perspectives, they are generally
open to understanding the perspective of their partner from a position of compromise or an alternative
solutions neither has considered. We as therapist see these perspective changes as the building blocks
for future resiliency in our couples relationship.
Article for Hope Counseling San Antonio Texas, Family and Individual Therapy.
